Saturday, 16 November 2013

It will not be about an emotion, mere entertainment may be.

I thought it would be just another weekday. I get up, check the phone - for any new e-mails related to work, followed by Facebook, twitter and Cricinfo, the routine that I follow every morning. I read a brilliant article by Mark Nicholas, taking my thoughts back to how Sachin evolved, and it reminds me of how I became such a big fan. It sinks in slowly now. I have a sad feeling. This moment was to come, but the sadness was inevitable either.

Then comes Friday, he was at 38 not out the day before and I didn’t want to miss him see bat one last time. I get up soon, rush to office, just in time to catch the start and sit in the break-out with my work and watch him play, until he gets out. There is sadness, but it doesn’t sink in yet.

Saturday, and I am at work. I open Cricinfo at around 12 PM, and the match is over. I could’ve gone online and seen him depart, but I couldn’t. I had seen a couple of retirements before – the first one I remember is Inzamam-Ul-Haq, the guy I didn’t like so much, but after he played his last innings, he waved to the crowd, and wiped his tears. I had a lump in my throat. I still remember exactly how he walked back that day, that huge figure crying like a little boy, and it still gives me goose bumps. Then Ricky Ponting, the cricketer I hated the most, I thought. But when I saw him walk in to bat for the last time, I had almost choked. It wasn’t supposed to be as emotional, but it was sad, very sad. So I decided I can’t see Sachin’s retirement. It has already been a day since he retired, I have all the means to see how he left, but I still haven’t seen that speech. I think I can never see it. I tried to read the newspapers on Sunday, picked one random part where he talks about his wife, and I have moist eyes, tears ready to roll down. I didn’t want my mother to see me cry, so I stop reading it further. She was reading about Sachin’s retirement as well, then suddenly stops and says –“I can’t read it, I might just cry”, though she never followed cricket.

I’ve been a huge fan of the game, but I realized I have been a bigger fan of Sachin. He is the reason I started watching cricket. I remember how in 1996, during the world cup, cricket fever had gripped everyone, including me. I remember how when he got out (his being the second wicket) with the score at 98, chasing against Sri Lanka in the semi-finals, India fold to 120-8. And just like that, I remember almost every game he played, until he got out, like it was played yesterday.


When I think back about a few of the matches that he played in and when I can’t relate to what the result of those matches were, I know for sure that Sachin, for me, is bigger than the game. And I am not ashamed to say it either. I will continue to watch cricket, but it will not matter when someone wins or loses, it will not matter when someone comes out to bat and it will not matter when someone gets out. I will continue to watch cricket, but it will not be about an emotion, mere entertainment may be. 

Thursday, 8 August 2013

The perks of being single...

I'm almost turning 26 and the mental pressure is immeasurable. No! Not career! I give a horse's arse about it these days, now that I don't have one; it is about finding a girl, something which will change the meaning of my existence, an existence without any freedom, I hope not. A great man in me had thought - Once you are married, you're married for life. That's that. When my parents ask me to get married, rather ask me if they can start looking for a girl, which they already have and the asking is all but a formality, that is the though) that comes to my mind. And when they take my suggestion on what kind of a girl I'd prefer, which they hardly do and cruel enough it only is a suggestion they ask for, I say - someone who lives and lets me live. I remember this one conversation that I had with my father the other day about an ideal girl to get married to - ideal for me, according to me. Not having words on how to explain, I had given him an example - if I was to go out on a sudden vacation with friends, for say three days, without ever planning for it, and after I inform her once that I am going, I am not to get a call or message from her until I call her myself or until I am back. Of course I'd call her once a day, I hope, given I forget who in the world would be expecting to hear from me when I am with friends. Then and there, my father had given away any last hopes he had of finding one, per my specification that is.

Not just that, there are other things. They say - to be on a moral high ground, you cannot think about another woman when you're married for once. I agree, what I do not agree is getting married in the first place. Also, I do not understand the plausibility of not thinking about another one. But give it a thought? Just one woman to admire all your life? What wrongs did God perform to not be amused by the beauty he created!? Only the other day, I saw a girl, walking briskly towards the place I was standing, her densely-populated-wavelike-curly-at-the-end-hair, left open, running just below the shoulder, jumping up and down in joy of being there on such a beauty in the first place. My gaze was transfixed, never blinking, in awe, thinking this was the exact girl I was dreaming of all this while. I couldn't help but think if I had ever felt like that before? Stupid question. I did, just a couple of months back, when I looked at some other girl in a similar situation!

Irrelevant information: turned out she was too dumb.
Irrelevant information again: the latest one apparently isn't.
Relevant information: highly likely I feel the same about someone else in a couple of months' time.

And anyone before that? Yes, now stop asking such stupid questions for I keep on answering and my girlfriend gives me an all abusive call even before she finishes reading this. No, the second girlfriend wouldn't, she has a good sense of humor. Anyway, the whole point is, you just cannot be ready to be with one woman who's overly possessive, or should I say just about possessive? The least she can give is the liberty to be yourself, a little space (actually, I won't mind a lot of it), liberty to look around a little bit? No? Cheap? Okay. But I don't look around with that intention, it just happens. I get hit by a thunderbolt, like in the Godfather, now and then and I suppose it is perfectly fine. No? Okay.

To think of it, there are too many negatives, but are there any positives? Ask those overly-possessive-looking-for-that-ideal-guy girls and they say - you get someone to love for life. Seriously now? I can't love myself for long enough. But I do hope I find someone who can understand the little perks I enjoy, respect them and let me enjoy being myself forever. Well, looking at other women is not all I want. Stop deducing me to be a pervert and please concentrate on other important perks like going out with friends and all (of course without her tagged along everywhere)! Too much to ask for? Well, from the study, rather self-study, of reverse psychology (or common sense), if someone gives you what you always wanted, that someone gets back what they want. And they sure won't want more than what they deserve. Didn't understand it yet? Never mind.

A great just-another-guy-in-his-second-half-of-the-twenties in me had once said "So give me the liberty and I shall give you what thou deserve. Else, I am just about doing good enjoying the perks of being single..."

P.S: Even after all the lame discussions at home, I am thankful for my family is too kind in giving me the liberty I need.

Saturday, 3 August 2013

All it takes is a little push...

As I sit back and think of what happened over the last few months, I can't help but notice that I have gone out of my way to do something which I thought would never happen. Taking a stride into a zone outside of my comfort has given me an experience of a lifetime, which in deed would not have been possible if not for Srinivas, who is responsible to get the seed of thought in our minds, and also do a lot of research to make it a success; and Chaitanya, a brute enthusiast, for his positive energy towards the certainty with regards to happening of this trip encouraged me to dive into the idea without thinking of too many consequences. Consequences, yes, there were quite a few, the biggest on of those being a big hole in the pocket. And then there is a huge risk if you ride into the Himalayas without having been riding a bike, let alone a bullet, for more than an year.

It all started way too casual. When Srinivas had told me the final plan and asked me to come over to his house to book tickets, I went that night with a thought that I can cancel them later anyway. We were to travel in exactly two months' time from the date of booking. As the days passed by, the discussions for the trip started. I joked around about going on the trip with some of my close friends still unsure of the certainty. Then there was only a month left when I started going to the gym, suddenly feeling the need to boost my stamina which had taken a beating in the last couple of years. I considered seriously about going on the trip by then and had started shopping for it already. In no time, the day had come and we were on our way. The excitement had started but I still had serious doubts about the success, for there wasn't enough confidence. All those doubts, however, were put to rest within the first fifty kilometers of the ride, which I recall to be the most memorable, ironically also, the last fifty.

The first day of the ride was all about excitement, gradually being taken over by a rush of adrenaline. Amazing is a word loosely used these days, but when I looked back at the day, amazing is an understatement. Also, I doubt if I can ever repeat what I did that day. I've always had a fear of heights, but I was rising by the minute, the sweet sound of the bike giving me enough adrenaline to carry on unmindful of the heights that scared me all my life. Manali to Rohtang pass was the most challenging. When Stone, our guide, said we'd take a lot of time to reach Rohtang pass due to tourist movement, I thought there would be reasonable traffic. To my utter disbelief I see at least a thousand vehicles lined up on the ghat road, which would hardly accommodate two four wheelers side-by-side. We had the bikes though - easy to sneak in; and we were doing exactly that until I saw the road ahead turning into a pool of mud. We were riding uphill, I was closely following Stone concentrating my best to maneuver exactly as he was doing, when suddenly there was one point where we could not sneak through the left side of the four wheeler ahead, which we had been doing since it was safer. To our left was the hill and to the right was the valley. Stone saw that there was no space to go through the left. He took a surprising step, trying to overtake the SUV from the right side, where the road was half a feet deep in mud, and a free fall of easily over three thousand meters just about twelve inches to his right. Stone did it with absolute ease, the brilliant rider that he is. I stopped contemplating what to do next, then I took the bold decision to follow his lead, mainly because there were five more riders behind me. I moved towards the right and accelerated as slowly as possible when I was on the pile of mud. Out of sheer nervousness and to over-take as quickly as possible, I tried to accelerate a little more, but noticed that the rear tyre was slipping towards the valley if I sped. I concentrated hard, looked at the people around hoping someone would reach out in case I was falling, but also realised that I would already be a thousand meters down, if I happen to fall, before anyone even moved. I  rode slowly, praying to God, prayers basically made when you think you're about to die. I was terrified, I don't remember how I felt or what happened in the next few seconds, but then suddenly, I had crossed it, still breathing alright. I looked back towards the way I came from with a wry smile which took my gaze into the valley when my legs started trembling. It humbled me just enough as I got down from the bike, looked heavenwards, closed my eyes and breathed in slowly to absorb the most wonderful experience of my life yet. I still shiver at the thought of making that maneuver, but that gave me a huge amount of confidence going further and I rode like there's nothing else I can do in life except riding. We passed by a lot of muddy roads and rode uphill until we reached the Rohtang pass where we had our breakfast - maggi, which would become our staple food in the days to come, and bread-omeletteRohtang pass was an inexplicable natural beauty full of tourists. Masses of people were enjoying the beauty of snow-capped mountains. I remember the sounds of joy of tourists on the snow rides - Yaks, motorboats and many more, kids' laughter while they were hurled at with snowballs, the chattering of older men and women around, and amongst all that, what I remember the most is the voice in my head which wanted me to get on to that riding machine and ride until eternity.

After we'd pass the traffic en-route the Rohtang Pass
Thirteen hundred kilometers and ten wonderful days later, we were all set to return to Manali. We had almost reached back to the Rohtang Pass when the roads were being gulped by monstrous clouds all around. It was a blind sight anywhere beyond ten meters ahead of us. I had dreaded rains all through the ride, for I never liked riding in it, while everyone else wanted to experience riding in the rain or snow-fall, which fortunately we hadn't seen until then. Snow-fall meant we couldn't ride due to the slippery roads, but rains were not an excuse, and there it was, slowly making its way. It had started raining when we reached the Rohtang Pass. It was a Tuesday, a day off for the tourist visits to the Rohtang Pass, hence traffic was negligible. Surprisingly, I had started enjoying the rain. The blind vision on the road made it even more exciting. It was like playing hide-and-seek with Stone and Akash, who were ahead of me. Every time I slowed down a little bit, they disappeared in the clouds and then I sped along to keep them within the sight. I was laughing to myself, shouting with joy, a sense of happiness had taken over. Into the last few minutes of the ride, I thought about how this trip happened, about the doubts I cast on myself, about the uncertainties that would mar the happening of the most wonderful days of my life, and yet I was there, feeling blessed to have taken the plunge.

As I look back to those days, I wonder what I did different from all those things that I really wanted to do, but couldn't. The trip has changed the way I think about myself, the way I can do things that I think I can not. Things I thought were impossible to do, now seem very much within the grasp. After much contemplation, I realised that it were the little things that changed the decision. The little things that made this happen, the little seed of thought, the little encouragement from my mother, who said this will be once in a lifetime chance, the little thought of taking the risk to see if it's worthwhile. At the end of all those things put together, I earned myself eleven days of Nirvana and a realisation telling me that if I ever wanted to do something I think I can not, do not back down for all it takes is a little push...



..... and just in case you might be interested, here's the link for a few of those wonderful memories: -